Monthly Archives: May 2012

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Hello Dears,
This is going to be a condensed post. My week has been hectic, let me tell you, my job tires me to no end and challenges me immensely and… I love it! I’m just that kind of girl, I love a challenge.

Speaking of challenges, lack of sleep, whoa, what a challenge. I was so tired the other day (thursday). All I thought about was going home and getting in my bed. I literally had visions of it. Then, the calendar on my iPhone alerted me that I had an event that day. I had tickets to take the kids to the UniverSoul Circus. Oh no, say it ain’t so. Of all days. Today? Really? I completely forgot. I purchased those tickets well over a month ago and it slipped my mind. To top that off, Thursday was my late day at work. I wasn’t getting off until 6. The circus started at 7:30. How could I make this go over well at this point. After work I began a mad dash from one part of town to the next. The twenty- year old picked up the five year old from school. I called home and told the older kids to go in the closet and get an outfit for J, black shorts, black shirt, black sandles. I rushed in the house a sweaty and tired hot mess. J was bathed and dressed. Wonderful! I jump in the shower, with not a clue of what to wear. I ran to the closet and just picked out something that looked comfortable. I really didn’t put any thought into my clothes. Who had time to think. Clothes on, and we’re off.

Lil miss number #5 J wore:
Black tee- Walmart
Black shorts-Walmart
Sandles- the shoe dept
Purse and jewelry- Burlington’s

20120526-105301.jpg this pose and the cardi wrapped around her waste was strictly generated by her, foreal, she is such a fashionista. Lol..

I wore:
Brown Jumper- Wet Seal
Cardigan- Old Navy
Sandles- Target
Earrings, Necklace- JCPenny
Watch- Michael Kors

(I just threw on anything)




We were speeding down the highway, and made it at 7:30 on the dot. First off, if you’ve ever been to the Universoul circus then you’ll know that when I say it was like a big huge party, I’m not joking. This was my first time going and I was not prepared for all the partying, music, dancing, audience participation, line dancing, soul train line, constant interaction. On a Thursday night, after work, dead tired, I was ill prepared. Overall, it was nice. I think the kids were in a state of shock at first. Then they started enjoying it. J was dancing it up, because that’s her thing but after a few hours it was just wearing on us all. At 10:15 pm, the circus was still running strong. I grabbed my kids and said we out! Nobody hesitated because they were all just as tired as I was. It was fun, but heart pumping, screaming excited kids, loud music, foot stomping was just too much for this Mommy on a Thursday night.

20120526-112341.jpg my Son jumped up there and started doing the stanky-leg.. Haha!

20120526-112448.jpgI wish I had better pictures 😦
Me and my clan




After the circus, as a unit we came home, and straight crashed! Lol..
Friday morning, I had to get up for work (still tired) and even managed to somehow look cute! 🙂
I wore:
Silk top- Old Navy
Silk Pants- Forever21
Lace Cardigan- ?
Nude Pumps- Marshall’s
Purse- TJMax
Necklace- JCPenny
Watch-Michael Kors
Bracelets- thrifted


Off work, and ready for the long weekend. Yes! No work til Tuesday. After work, I hooked up with a friend I hadn’t seen in a while. We ended up going out for crabs and just chilling at my house eating crabs and talking trash. It was a fun evening. And now today!!!
I gotta set this one up.
Thirteen years ago my head was so cloudy, my spirit was low and my faith was shattered, because my Mom had just died. Then on May 26, 1999, God blessed me with a wonderful gift that would stretch me in new ways, resurrect my faith, and lift me higher. DJ came into my life and reminded me that I had so much to live for..
He irritates me often, even challenges my intelligence at times, but the one constant is that he is unconditionally my son. My only son DJ is thirteen years old today, and I’m still his mom. What a blessing!
Happy Birthday to my son. Isn’t he so handsome:


20120526-123618.jpg he was wearing his little suit on Easter!


DJ wears- Suit from grandparents
Button down- the Children’s Place
Cardigan- American eagle kids
Jeans- Abercrombie & Fitch kids
Shoes- Vans
Geek glasses-?


Well folks, that’s it. Sorry for the looonngg post, and the heaavvvyyyy pictures, I was trying to get it in. I’ve got a long day of cookouts, and birthday hoorays, so let me get to it.
I pray everyone has a wonderful memorial day weekend with family, friends, and definitely be safe.

Peace and Blessings,


It always comes down to my gut and my gut tells me everything I need to know

Olivia Pope

We all know what tonight is. Scandal time. That’s right. Ok, I’m currently obsessed with this show, we’ve all figured that out by now. Am I the only one? Lately, I’ve found myself in random conversations discussing Scandal. It’s not just me people. My head is spinning, wondering, What is going to happen tonight? I can’t even concentrate on my work. If only Shonda Rhimes was my auntie and I could pick her brain.. Lol..

I even dressed for the part. I didn’t take pics this morning though because I didn’t have time. I will try to snap a few and post when I get home. I’m having a Scandal partayyyy…

I love these characters, and Columbus Short as Harrison Wright. My, my, my, my I could just… Emmmm. I can’t even say it. I just want to breathe him. Can you blame me. Look at him!

20120517-133341.jpg ummmmm so fine! Moving right along!

I have to go. I’ve got work to do. I just keep playing Scandal quotes in my head. Yep! It’s official, I’m crazy as a loon. Get crazy with me and enjoy a few..

Olivia fixes things. That’s who she is. You need fixing, I don’t need to know your story. We all have a story. You’re a stray dog and Olivia took you in. Don’t question it

I’m a gladiator in a suit cause that’s what you are when you work for Olivia Pope


Update: here’s what I wore for work today. Excuse the pics, it’s dark now, but I took some anyway.

Olivia pope inspired
I’m wearing:
Salmon Blazer- JC Penny
Zebra Top- Macy’s
White Slacks- thrifted
Nude shoes- Marshall’s
Necklace, Bracelets, earrings, rings- JCPenny, thrift store,H&M








I’m out.. Catch it tonight. Abc 10pm. Until then,
Peace and Blessings

Hello Dears,
As promised, I rummaged through my closet to find a hint of Olivia Pope inspired gear. Notice I said “inspired” because nobody can do it like Liv. I started out with a suit but then, I felt too hot.. Maybe tomorrow I’ll rock the suit. Today, I opted for an Ann Taylor dress from loft. I found this dress out thrifting a few years ago. One thing I remember is the tag was still there. Score!
Well by now, you all must know, I’ve been infected by the Scandal virus. This show is like a super bug. Anybody who tunes in to just one episode will surely be infected. There are so many things I love about Liv. She is so smart its down right ridiculous. You notice how when she’s on her grind, her sophistication shines through even more. With one comment she can take you down, or build you up. She commands her audience and she knows who she is. There’s just that one flaw. She’s having an affair with a married man, and typically I wouldn’t root for this type. However, this is TV and in my primetime TV world, this woman can do no wrong.
Ten things I love about Olivia Pope
1. She’s fearless
2. She gives the underdog a helping hand (i.e, her whole team)
3. She is a business owner
4. She has influence
5. She is a gladiator.. Lol
6. She’s a leader
7. She challenges those around her
8. She’s strong
9. She’s a fashionista
10. She has the same name as my baby niece. (isn’t she gorgeous)



I’m wearing:
Dress- Ann Taylor- thrifted
Blazer- Target
Shoes- DSW
Briefcase- thrifted
Necklace- gift
Bracelets- thrifted
Watch- Michael Kors




20120516-101457.jpg Lil Miss five wanted in on the action before heading off to school. She’s wearing dress and shoes- Target, Denim Jacket- The Children’s place.


I hope you enjoyed the look!
Don’t forget to tune in to the season finale of Scandal Thursday 10pm on ABC.
Have a wonderful day Dears
Peace and blessings

Hello Dears,

When we last left off I was catching you up on the happenings of me. And then I got all carried away in Olivia Pople mania. Ha! My post have been sporadic so I just wanted to clarify. About the financial liberation piece, I have been so focused on this thing that I didn’t think about blogging. Like usher said, I was caught up! To tell you the truth, (*clears throat*) some blogs I purposely stayed away from for fear of relapsing, tempted to go out and make purchases. I had to change people, places, and things. Lol…

True story.

Now I’m thinking, If i’m not blogging about shopping and thrifting then what? Time to strategize. You all know that while I was taking pictures and posting my daily outfits, that my blog is more geared towards those who don’t have a problem reading because above all else, I am a writer. I get that some folks just want to see some pretty pictures, cute outfits, gain some inspiration, read a few lines and dip out. And that’s totally fine but then, my blog ain’t for them because I writes.

So while I’m going to be getting back into the swing of blogging, over the next few weeks my blog may be a little different. I never wanted to define it anyway, and I think I’ve proven that I’m not one dimensional. You will continue to get inspirational pep talks, life lessons, rants and a few outfit post here and there. Expect also to see topics ranging from haircare, to savings plans, to health and beauty and wherever else my mind takes me.

Just promise me, you’ll stick around for the ride. Pretty soon I’ll be posting so much, I’ll be known as a serial blogger. Ok, maybe not, but you get my drift.

As promised, for anyone who is interested in the links to the sites I was telling you about reguarding financial planning, a good way to get started is by checking out Joe Sangl’s book. To order go here.

You can download the IWBNIM app on your iphone by visiting in the app store. I’m pretty sure they have the app in the android market as well.

You can also follow Joe Sangl on twitter

Be sure to visit Joe’s personal website to get started with a host of resources including a webinar series, weekly podcast, tips on saving money right away and a host of other things.

Thanks again for all of your concerns and for sticking with me through my involuntary, but necessary hiatus. There is no way I have covered the last two months and at this point, I’m just ready to move on. I’m back!

I haven’t been taking OTD pics at all.. Here’s one I took a few weeks back before I got my hair press and curled. Oh my goodness, that’s something else I’ll have to post about, the never ending hair journey. I’m never satisfied. The weave that I was suppose to keep for three months, I only kept for a month and a half. When I took it out, I started having fantasies of creamy cracked out hair. I got a press and I was good again. Don’t pay me no mind, I’m half crazy.

I thought this outfit was cute, my kids didn’t think so though, they told me the dress was too short and since they went through all kinds of strokes and breakdowns about it, I kept it on long enough to take a few pics, and shazam, this outfit never saw the light of day. Cute though.

I’m wearing:

Dress- Wet Seal (i think)

Cardigan- H&M

Necklace-Shoppers World

Bracelets- F21

Shoes- Avon three years ago


Time to end this post foreal. One last thing, it’s almost Thursday. You know what that means correct? The final Scandal episode. Mmmm, I can’t wait. Maybe I’ll wear Olivia Pope inspired looks for the rest of the week until the show down. Great idea! Check back tomorrow to see what I come up with by shopping my closet.

Peace and Blessings,



Hello Dears
How was your Mother’s day? Mines was nice. I’m happy that the day turned out beautifully. I had a ton of calls and well wishes and this absolutely warmed my heart. It was bittersweet. Of course I was missing my own Mom, I didn’t have a major breakdown, instead I spent the time reflecting on how fortunate I am to have had my mother for the time that I did. Many people loose their Mom’s at an age when they are too young to even remember, so I’ve learned to keep it all in perspective. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I thank God for my step-mom and the other mothers who have been that listening ear, that shoulder, and that wise tongue when I needed it. Still, ain’t nothing like your own. There isn’t a day that goes by that she doesn’t enter my mind. I honor her by being the best mother I can be to my own children. Speaking of which. Those little darlings of mine never cease to shock and amaze me. I had the most wonderful gift, and the delivery was all orchestrated and everything. They gave me my gift inside an Adidas shoe box. I’m thinking, ok sneakers. When I open the box, it’s a Macy’s gift bag inside. Hmmmm, this is getting interesting. I see a small black box inside the Macy’s bag with the words Michael Kors etched on it. This is when I lost it. I ripped the top off and I saw this beautiful watch. Yes!!! I screamed. I’ve been wanting this watch for a while. My oldest daughter knows it, we’ve both admired it on several occasions. I just didn’t expect it for Mothers day. I was happy with it and totally surprised. They all kept the secrect even little miss five who was at the store when it was purchased. I kissed them all like a maniac momma. I know it was a little manic because they were screaming out” Ma! Please stop”… That just made my day. I just love this watch. Isn’t it gorgeous


20120514-154945.jpg I think it looks pretty good on my wrist. All sized and everything perfectly for me!

We went out Sunday morning and by 2 pm, I was done. All I wanted to do was go home and lay in my bed and nap. My daughter fifteen waited on me hand and foot. Later, she served me dinner in bed. Even though, I cooked the dinner the night before, it was still much appreciated. I couldn’t imagine trying to dine out for dinner, with the crowds, forget about it. As a matter of fact, once I came in, I had no intentions on leaving out, and that was just fine with me.

Friday night, we had crabs. YUM!!
Saturday the kids did all the laundry for me. YAY!!!
Sunday I received my hearts desire. HOORAY!!!
I’ll say my weekend and my mothers day was splendid. I don’t need fire works, or a weekend get a way. I need just what I had. The love of my family and the gift of being a mom.

How about you all? How was your day and what did you have special planned. I hope everyone had a wonderful mothers day.

Peace and Blessings

Last night’s episode of scandal was explosive!!! Omg. You all watched Scandal right? I can’t believe that Mr President has me rooting for him even though he’s cheating on his wife. Not only did he fall in love with Liv but he slept with Amanda Tanner. I’m not supposed to like him and his sorted past right? But yet, I love him. And let’s talk about Olivia Pope. How can Fitz not love everything about her, hell, I’m in love with her my damn self. She’s powerful, resourceful, strong, beautiful, brilliant, she gets the job done and… the leader of the free world loves her. Olivia Pope is bad to the bone!

By the middle of last nights episode we learned how the web was spun and how Fitz and Liv became one.

Not that I needed an explanation, as I believed in them all along. Even though I know it could never work. Fitz can’t leave Millie for Liv, not if he expects to continue to run the country. Now Liv who cleans everyone’s messes is confronted by a mess of her own. How will she salvage herself? Her reputation? How will she save her beloved Fitz? I don’t know, but what I do know is that I’m going to be right there watching every minute of it.

Can you believe next week is the season finale. It’s too soon. I’m not ready to let these characters go. I’m a slave to this Thursday night ten o’clock slot. Shonda Rhimes is brilliant. This Gray’s Anatomy extraordinar has truly outdone herself. I want to pick her brain. I wanna know how she has hooked America. Actually, I want to know why the hell she let Billy bad azz stab Gideon with a pair of scissors. Boom! I felt embarrassed as I screamed out at the TV extremely loud, “NO!!”. My kids bust into my bedroom to see if I was ok. Lol.. This show had me going. I really didn’t know when I started watching several weeks ago that Gideon would be bleeding to death on the floor of the VP’s man main. Billy was the father of Amananda Tanners baby. Gideon uncovered it all. Ah ha! Well, I didn’t see that coming either. Shonda Rhimes got me again. Did the VP possibly set the whole thing up? Or Did Billy’s ambitions take control? He just used Amanda, and even though she got caught up, in the end, she wanted to do the right thing. But her end, came to soon. I hope the reporter in Gideon made him smart enough to make a record of his findings before he went and confronted Billy. He had to know if he was spot on, Billy wouldn’t risk being found out. Poor Gideon. Poor Quinn. Poor Fitz. Poor Liv.. My heart aches for them all.

Is somebody is gonna die next week?

If Shonda Rhimes was my auntie, I would stalk her home all the time. I would follow her incessantly. I would harass her until she told me all I needed to know. “When will season 2 return Auntie Shonda”.. Lol..
I would bribe her with family secrets until she played me an advance copy of next weeks finale. This is serious business. I haven’t been excited about a TV show like this in years.

All jokes aside. It’s wonderful to see an african-american screenwriter bring provocative, edgy, political, and sheer genius to TV. It’s also refreshing to see an African-american woman portrayed this way. Kerry Washington delivers week after week. Olivia Pope is a woman’s woman. I love me some Scandal. And by the way, her fashion rocks! From Diane Von Furstenburg to Escada, to Valentino and yes.. Armani. Liv’a wardrobe is dying to meet me. I’d totally rock the business classy look everyday of the week. Let’s not even talk about girlfriends shoes.



I’m having a Scandal Party next week and your all invited!!!

(I will post the happenings of Dee part 2 later, this post couldn’t wait)

Peace and Blessings,


I’ve decided, I’ll have to share this story in parts instead of one long post. It’s long, and I don’t want you to start yawning. Excuse the length, but I don’t want to spare any detail. It’s high time I share the happenings of Dee (like you care) lol..

Part of the problem is that I honestly don’t know where to start. It’s been so long. I’ve even neglected regular entries into my own personal journal and that is so unlike me. Formost, I am fine. Better than fine. I’m great. I’ve had a two month long personal inventory so to speak. My soul started stirring sometime back in Febuary when I started attending an 8 week long intensive on financial liberation at my church. Who doesn’t discuss or go through things financially. With today’s economy, please. It’s what we discuss. But yet, we are still spending. I know I amwas.

I’m your classic spender, far from a saver and, I didn’t need a class to tell me that. I did however need the class to make me face the fact that if I continued on “spending” the way I was that my children were going to be on the welfare line, literally. It’s so much deeper than I’m sure I can even describe, but during my attendance in the class, reading, studying and budgeting (I hate the word budget) something happened inside of me. God started dealing with me. I was challenged and stretched in ways I never could imagine, and in the end, I gained FREEDOM. My pastor really is a visionary. Several months ago he started preaching a series on faith and family finances. It was so intense, I saw myself in every sermon and I just knew he was talking directly to me! That series was the jump off for the class I attended titled, “I was broke, now I’m not”. Babyyy, let me tell you, it changed my life. The creator of the program, Joe Sangl is serious about debt and financial freedom. He has books, a web based program, lecture series, and a host of tools to get you started on the road to gaining control of your finances. You can look up the course online it’s called, “I was broke,now I’m not”.

The class didn’t cost me anything. Not a dime. Well, I paid $15 for the book, and $5 for the workbook. With what I gained, that was nothing. I started thinking about all those receipts sitting in that plastic container I keep, thinking about all the ways I had totally misused my money. A savings plan, forget about it. I heard a few say they have no problem saving. And I think that’s great. But for me.. Yeah, I have a savings account, one that I put money into and probably just take it out within the next few weeks. That’s not saving. But that’s how I’ve been rolling. I am not ashamed to talk about it, I don’t care who talks about it or what they think of me for discussing it. I’m trying to help somebody else get free. Savings and spending were interchangeable for me. I didn’t understand how I had gotten to this place, and I surely didn’t know I had a problem. You know it’s one of those things, you know about it, it’s there, it exist, but when it’s placed in your lap and it’s just you in the room and your forced to look at it, all of a sudden a light bulb goes off. Oh wow, is this what I’ve been doing? Ohhhh I’ve been messing up, disrespecting my money and my future. It took a while to get me to this point(debt) and it was going to take radical change to get me out. Admitting it was the first step. For the first time in my life, I started thinking about being free in my finances. I decided I wasn’t going to spend anymore for a while. No more shopping. No more useless spending. No dining out, only necessities. A financial fast. It killed me!!!!! Ok, here goes. I am a bit of a shopaholic and a spendaholic. There, I said it.
It was time for a change and day by day it became easier to stop spending, and more worth it. I was reading, studying, and saving. While the fasting part wasn’t a requirement, it taught me discipline. I learned things I never knew about me and money. Mainly how much I waste.
I gained so much from taking this class. The lessons are practical and can very effective if used properly. I never had a budget in my life, until now! I’ve justified my outrages spending by catching sales. As much as I spend, it just never dawned on me to save. I’ve been living in the moment.
At graduation, I humbly accepted my certificate of completion. I couldn’t believe how far I’d come. I couldn’t believe how much I’d accomplished. I cried and cried and cried tears of joy. Tears of freedom. The experience was one I’ll never forget.

(check back tomorrow for part 2 and links to some of the tools I used)

Peace and Blessings